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✨ guilt is part of the grieving process ✨ „

✨ guilt is part of the grieving process ✨

„Guilt is perhaps the most painful companion to death.” – Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

Grief, guilt, and regret go hand in hand. We might feel relieved that our loved one is no longer suffering, then guilt about the feeling of relief. We might feel anger about circumstances related to the death, then guilt about the feeling of anger. We might have a good day, then feel guilty about not being sad 24/7. Guilt keeps our focus on the past and punishes us for having a future.

Regret is accompanied by a lot of „should have, would have, could have“ moments. All of them are theoretical. We get caught in the loop of overthinking the past. I should have said ‚I love you‘ more. We should have spent more time. We could have done this and that together. We would be doing this right now.

While these emotions are valid, we need to identify what we are really feeling and work through it.
If you feel stuck in guilt and regret, always remember:

✨ Tell someone you trust what you are feeling.
✨ Write a list of what you feel bad about.
✨ Consciously reflect whether these things are actually bad things and whether they happened intentionally or unintentionally.
✨ Be open to forgiving yourself.
✨ Most importantly, allow yourself to remember the things you did right.

No matter how bad you feel right now, you deserve love and forgiveness. Most importantly, from yourself.
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✨ it’s okay ✨ It’s okay to be sad. It’

✨ it’s okay ✨

It’s okay to be sad.
It’s okay to cry.
It’s okay to lie in bed.
It’s okay to be mad.
It’s okay to feel guilty.
It’s okay to feel lost.

Your feelings are valid—all of them. So give them space, feel them, like really feel them, and then let them go.

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✨ feel what you need to feel and then let it go,

✨ feel what you need to feel and then let it go, do not let it consume you. - @poetryofdhiman ✨

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✨ And if today, all you do is hold yourself toge

✨ And if today, all you do is hold yourself together, you can be proud of yourself. ✨
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✨ be kind ✨ When things get messy and stop ma

✨ be kind ✨

When things get messy and stop making sense, please be kind to yourself and others around. - @iamsmitamaharana
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✨ you don't have to turn your pain into power ✨

Sometimes, feeling the pain, the reminder that you are alive, that you are human, is all you need to do.

You don't need to be strong and powerful all the time. Being vulnerable and feeling pain is not weak; it's human.
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✨ what to wear in summer #plussizeedition ✨ F

✨ what to wear in summer #plussizeedition ✨

Finding comfortable summer clothes for a plus-size body is not easy. We have got a lot of chub that can rub and get sore, and then there are all the things we might not want to world to see.

We often try to hide our bodies and would rather get a heatstroke than have someone see our chubby arms. The internet also isn't very helpful in finding cute looks. We are recommended to wear long dresses or put a blazer on top of a tank top to hide away as much of our bodies as possible.

But surprise: a plus-size person can wear whatever they want in simmer. You are allowed to flaunt your curves, show your skin, and feel good about yourself! Who cares about jiggly arms or stomach rolls showing. People can look away if they don't like what they see. That's not your problem. A plus-size person can wear everything and anything they want. End of story!

So this summer, don't shy away from all the cute summer looks. Wear what makes you feel happy. That's the only thing that matters.
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✨ proud to have a caring heart, even if it is th

✨ proud to have a caring heart, even if it is the most painful thing ✨
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✨ photo dump: about last week ✨ Sometimes you

✨ photo dump: about last week ✨

Sometimes you just need to look back and appreciate all the good things in life.
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✨ it's okay to cry ✨ Life is full of stressfu

✨ it's okay to cry ✨

Life is full of stressful and traumatic situations. We live with so many stressors that tend to add up quickly. Owning a home, having a job, having animals, children, family, making enough money to live. Losing family, friends, animals, a job, the list goes on and on.

When you feel overwhelmed, and you can’t take it anymore, cry. Do not let the anger or sadness get the best of you. You will say things you do not mean if your emotions take over.

Don’t fight your feelings. Be self-aware and know what you need to make yourself feel better. The best route is to let the feelings go so they do not manifest into something. So cry. Cry it all out. You will feel better after a good cry. You will feel lighter.

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✨ fat people are allowed to wear summer clothes

✨ fat people are allowed to wear summer clothes ✨

Quick storytime: yesterday we went out to grab some iced coffee because it was the first time we nearly had 30 degrees Celsius outside. While waiting in line, I noticed a group of four girls waiting in front of us. Three of them were wearing flowy and short summer clothes, while the biggest girl of the group, the fat friend, was wearing black jeans and a blazer. She must have been so hot; I cannot even imagine.

And yet, I can. I have been the fat friend all my life. I have worried about what other people might say if they see my fat body all my teenage years. I have tried to hide myself away in layers of clothes, no matter how hot I was. Seeing this made me feel so bad. Bad for her and bad for my younger self.

But fat people don’t deserve this.

So while I was standing in line behind this girl yesterday, I so painfully remembered all these years I tried to hide myself away. And then I looked down. Looked at the crop top I was wearing, looked at my exposed arms, my jiggly thighs, and realized that I have come a long way. The insecure fat girl is no more. But it was a process—a painful and long process of doubting myself and finding my worth.

So to all fat people: I hope this summer treats you well. I hope you will find the strength to ignore beauty standards. I hope you will treat your body with kindness, let it have some sun. You deserve this; your body deserved this. Loving your body does not correlate with your size, shape, age, etc. All bodies are good bodies.

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✨ #fatgirlsummer ✨ “I am shutting down any

✨ #fatgirlsummer ✨

“I am shutting down any talk of losing weight for the summer. Fed girl summer. Buy a size up girl summer. Pasta and wine girl summer. If someone fancies you less because you’re 15 lbs heavier then you should never have considered them in the first place girl summer x” - @ginandchronic__ on Twitter
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