The days we feel the worst is when we deserve love the most.
Self-Love is hard. We all know those days when loving yourself feels like a waste of time. We do not feel like we deserve love or happiness. We feel overwhelmed and underappreciated – by ourselves and others. We argue with ourselves and project our anger onto others. In short, we feel unloved, not good enough, unworthy.
But it is especially those days, the days that you do not feel like you are deserving of love, that are the ones you need it most on. Self-Love is loving yourself intentionally, showing yourself kindness, listening to your body, and understanding and caring for it. It is treating yourself with the same respect you have for others. Because, after all, you would never treat your friends and loved ones badly because they are having a bad day. No, you would help them through it and give them some extra love. So why not do that to yourself too?
4 Ways to Practice Self-Love
1. Make a First Aid Package
Come up with a routine for those days when you are just not feeling yourself. Maybe it is taking a bubble bath and watching your favorite show on Netflix, indulging in an at-home spa day with face masks and a Mani/Pedi, or spending time with someone you love, just being together.
Whatever it is, write it down, prepare ahead of time, or give your friends a heads up that they are your emergency contact. On days when everything feels overwhelming and too much, it is good to be prepared and not have to scramble to come up with something to help you through it.
2. Take a Conscious Break
Life can be overwhelming. Sometimes, everything feels too much. There are times in life when just putting on pants feels like the hardest task. On days like this, take some time to take a break. Not 10 minutes, not an hour but an entire day off. Recharge, do what makes you happy, sleep as long as you want, and eat whatever you like. I promise those pants will still be there tomorrow, and the thought of putting them on may not feel as crushing anymore.
3. Talk to Someone
We have felt like the worst person on earth before, I promise. And sometimes, we get so caught up in our minds that we do not realize that the solution to your problems might just be a phone call away. Even if they cannot help you through your problem, it feels good to talk about it, get an outside perspective or just take your mind off it.
4. Journal about How You Feel
Similarly to talking to someone, sometimes just letting go of these thoughts is the best way to get a new perspective and work through your bad days. Writing your thoughts down helps you take a step back and analyze what makes you feel bad. Additionally, it helps to look back at what helped you through it last time, what reoccurring thoughts and problems are, how to work on them, and how much progress you have already made.
Note to self: You are being too hard on yourself. Before judging yourself, think abut where you have come from and what your past self would think about you now. Whatever is holding you back now wont matter in five years as long as you come from a place of self-love and self respect. You got this!
Thank you for being here!