When it comes to fashion, finding a way to truly represent yourself can be tricky – especially when you are plus-size. There are two main problems:
- We don’t find ourselves represented in fashion and media, and it is hence hard to be inspired and create a style that suits your body and personality.
- Whenever we do have an idea of how we want to style ourselves, we cannot just walk into a regular store and expect to find whatever we are looking for.
Fashion, as it is found today, is not made for plus-size people. We don’t fit the ‘norm,’ whatever that might be, and many companies are ashamed to see their clothes worn by plus-size people. Harmful for the image or whatever.
But what is essential is that we always remember: your body does not define your worth. You are valuable just the way you are and just like every other person, no matter how far we deviate from the ‘standard’ deserves to feel beautiful and to express themselves through fashion. Fashion should be fun for everyone. A way to be creative and leave a mark. A way to take your personality and project it on the outside. Fashion is a significant part of yourself and your self-confidence. When we feel beautiful, we feel confident. And we all deserve to feel this way.
So, to start finding your own style, something that genuinely represents yourself, we need to leave all norms and standards behind. This is not about the way others see you but about the way you want to see yourself. It’s an expression of you as you are. Your personal style is yours, so make it just that.
This is not to say that it is wrong to be inspired by others. An excellent way to find your personal style is by looking at the style of others. However, find people that inspire you that look like you. Bella Hadid’s style is never going to look the same on a curvy body, and that is okay. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. However, the style of beautiful women like Ashley Graham and Grace Victory might be something that you can recreate more easily. Also, Pinterest is a great source of inspiration.
Once you have found a style that you like, it is time to hunt for just the right items. Over the years, I have learned that the easiest way to build a wardrobe is to have many staple basic pieces and some statement pieces to wear them with. Basic long sleeves, some nicely fitting jeans, and comfy sneakers or boots are the perfect base for every style. Add some patterned tights, some dresses, and skirts that complete the look, and you are good to go. Lastly, accessories are super important. A few bags to choose from, some different belts, and maybe even a hat can take your style to the next level.
All that being said, what is most important, is that you feel comfortable and beautiful. Not every outfit needs to be catwalk ready, but when you feel like yourself, not like you’re playing dress-up, and you wear something that makes you feel beautiful – whether it’s sweatpants or a faux fur coat – it will show. It will make you glow from within. Nothing is more beautiful than showing your true self – just the way you are.