I am grateful that I am not as judgmental as all those censorious, self-righteous people around me.” – anonymous
I certainly am judgemental a lot of times – I think it is natural. However, while it is normal, it is neither useful nor a positive attribute. Looking down on others, being arrogant, judging people about their looks or actions, does not help anyone grow – most importantly, not yourself.
Here is how to avoid being judgemental:
Do not pass judgement onto others. If you find yourself judging others, stop yourself immediately. Become aware of your thoughts, observe yourself and try to avoid judgmental thinking.
Understand others and be respectful. Instead of judging others, try to understand where they are coming from. Put yourself in their shoes, find out about their backstory. Try to imagine their circumstances and try to help the other person instead of judging them.
Accept and love others. If you cannot understand others, at least accept them the way they are. Accept the way they act without trying to change them. Accept their past and try to love them for who they are. Loving others might be limited, but it will affect at least two people: you and the person you are loving. Love and acceptance can change the lives of others.
Be thoughtful, don’t pass judgement onto others, and accept them for who they are. This will be hard – change always is. But keep going, keep thriving, and change yourself and the world.